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So here's my theory... the world is split in two, stick with me on this... This divide isn't men against women, it's not old versus young ... nor brains versus brawn... It's positive people fighting the force of negative people... and believe me team negative is out there in force... 

Now I know it's hard to be happy every day, this time of year is especially difficult for some people... SAD is settling in comfortably in my house right now and the signs of tinsel in the stores just makes me miserable for all kinds of reasons... So I choose to be positive, if I don't work at that, then I fall into the dark hole for 3 months and do more damage than good to myself, both physically and mentally... I bought myself a 'sunrise' alarm clock this year to help me produce more cortisol and give two fingers to the dark mornings... I'm booking a couple more sessions with my counsellor, just in case I do let things get on top of me, I have someone to vent to... I'm looking at cheapy breaks away in November to break up the month, anyone needs a bag carrier somewhere hot?!? Once the 26th of December comes it's like a switch is flicked in my head and I can see the daffodils waving at me in the garden and I'm on the way back up again but between now and then it's up to me to plan and organise enough  positive things to keep me on the up... 

It's the same with your weight loss journey, you have to prepare for those people who are negative all the time... 


If they're on social media, say hello to the block button, honestly it's one of the best inventions ever... Once they're not on your timeline life is much brighter... These are normally people you don't even know and certainly wouldn't be friends with in real life, so don't give them your time when you're online doing good things for yourself... no one has enough time for that nonsense! 


Giving negativity attention just fuels the fire in it's belly... Trolls seek attention, if you react to it, no matter how hurtful they've been they've won... they've got the reaction they wanted and they know they've hurt you... Delete their comments... Without a reaction they will just go away... I've learned this lesson the hard way, I interacted with them... I thought I could teach them that what they were saying was just cruel, mean and they didn't know anything about me so why would they do that?! But these are people who just don't have anything else to do with their time, so don't waste yours on them! 

If you're related to them and you can't escape, PLAN, plan a limited time with them... 'I can only stay for a couple of hours I'm meeting someone for a movie/coffee etc...' ... Plan answers to the questions they always ask that get to you... 

'are you STILL in Weight Watchers? STILL?' ... 
'yes I am and I love it, I love my friends in class, I love the groups online and I love trying out their recipes, you should try it sometime!' Then just change the subject... 

'WW isn't really working for you is it?' 'well yes it is, I was kind of stuck for a couple of weeks but I've had some great support and I'm back on track now, thanks for asking...' Then just change the subject...

'That dress looks like it's too tight on you, are you putting on all the weight again?' .. 
'No I'm still on plan, I love this dress & it fits fine thanks'... Then just change the subject... 



You are in charge of your mindset, you are in control of how you feel and who you allow to make you feel that way... Surround yourself with positive people, people who will understand that you have tough days, that you're doing your best and they will be cheerleading you all the way to goal... 

Have a great week dolls x





4 comments

  1. Those types of questions from friends and family are so harsh, i re joined WW in July and have only told a handful of supportive friends, i cant deal with the questions Oh you have rejoined AGAIN? Do you think it will work this time? Dont you just need to exercise?
    People need to learn to butt out and offer some support not negativity a simple good on you would really make all the difference.

    love the blog
    sending Positive vibes love and happiness !!

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  2. I have to say I love this post and it is exactly what I needed to read today:) Thank you so much:)
    You are totally right Surround yourself with positive people:)
    Love it
    xx

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  3. Isn't it amazing how everybody feels it necessary to comment on our appearance! Weight on or weight off, sometimes the very people who never make any attempt to lose it themselves are the experts on how 'you' should do it. ��
    You are so right Doll, either avoid them, reduce your exposure to them or be agreeable to them (confusing tactic) it's how I cope with chocolate ��

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  4. Kill them with kindness... They can't cope with that!! Keep up the good work!

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