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Week two... Just say No!
Ever have that moment when you really want to say 'NO' but your mouth, without engaging your brain says okay... sigh.. why do we do it to ourselves? Why is it we tell certain people what they want to hear? It seems like an easy option at the time but if you backpedal it's only more stress... sigh... Here's a few tips I've picked up this week when I asked pals and colleagues ...
You're first response should be 'can I get back to you on that?' Then decide what you REALLY want to do.. and stand firm...
Ask yourself 'what's the worst that could happen if I say no?' ... life will go on.. parties will happen.. people will get the bus... and probably the stress you thought you face will go totally unnoticed! The consequences are rarely as bad as your imaginations would lead you to believe!
Remember your time is precious to you! Telling someone to their face that you just can't help them out this time.... lets them know that you simply have something else on... its not personal...
Keep it simple... The more reasons you give the weaker your 'no' becomes! .. 'I already have plans' is enough.. 'I need to focus on work/study/family right now' is fine.
Be consistent! If you're turning someone down because you have a personal rule, just say so... I know we all cringed at Charlotte in SATC about lending Carrie cash.. but if its your policy not to lend money to friends ... say that.. It lets them know your 'no' isn't a once off...
End on a positive note.. if its a work thing suggest a solution.. if its a friend thing.. suggest a pal who would fit the bill better.. or offer to do it at a time that suits you!
Its time to look after number one.. if you burden yourself with endless favours you leave no time to take care of you!!!!
Losses this week are great ... -31.6 lbs lost in total so far, with a few to still check in... arses appear to be in gear!! Love it!
Doll x
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Love the printing blocks:)
ReplyDeleteI lost 3lbs this week - woohoo!
3 is amazing! well done! x
DeleteDown another pound this week. Only 4lbs off my 50lb cert! yay!
ReplyDeleteSo close! such an achievement! x
DeleteMinus 1 pesky pound
ReplyDeleteI hear ya.. -0.5 this week... groan... still we're in it together... its still down! x
DeleteI actually gained 1.6 this week, but it was my birthday, so the gain was planned! I plan on getting it off this week!
ReplyDeleteHallpass! Allowed.. did you enjoy it? That's what life is about.. x
Delete-1.5 this week :D wahey!
ReplyDeleteBoom! Killing it! x
DeleteGreat post! I'm at 5lbs lost this week :)
ReplyDelete-3lbs this week! Delighted after sts last week:)
ReplyDeleteBrilliant! x
DeleteDown 3.2 pounds! Yay!!
ReplyDeletefab!!! you're doing great!
DeleteDown 4 this week, but am away now so hopefully not doing too much damage
ReplyDeleteJust take it meal by meal and don't go crazy but remember life is short.. we'll be here when you get back! x
DeleteI need to start saying no to myself again, I'm slipping! Down 0.5 this week, that number needs to be higher next week, was hoping for another stone before Christmas. :(
ReplyDeleteI'm feeling the VERY same this week... just can't get head in gear at all.. Fresh start today yeah? We owe it to ourselves.. and a stone is TOTALLY achievable! xxx
DeleteHey Doll, up 1.5 last week not very happy with that but i was down 4 the previous week that was not deserved so ill take it have wi on Thursday of this week so we'll wait and see.
ReplyDeleteSometimes your body plays catch up.. don't be hard on yourself.. you're still down overall! x
DeleteHI =) I 'm back after my hibernation period! Is there any chance I could join in on this challenge! Sorry if it's hassle! I can pop in on the next one =)
ReplyDeleteTotally in!!! YAY! x
DeleteHi Doll,
ReplyDeleteIs it too late to join the hot for the holidays challenge??
What do I have to do, just post my weight loss (hopefully) here each week?
xx
Never too late! I put up a post on Thursdays (I'm late this week.. silly work!) and post your loss! and tips and tricks and lottery numbers! LOL x
DeleteWeek three - down another pound so thats five since we began
ReplyDeletebrilliant x
DeleteWeek 3 - down 4lbs, total 8.5 since we began :o)
ReplyDeleteover half a stone! Awesome! x
Deleteok i moved to the dark side changed to slimming world and lost 6lbs can i still do ur countdown to xmas challenge :(
ReplyDeleteThere is no dark side! All in the lardy boat together! xxx You're in!
DeleteAnd she's back!!! Ignore my last reply! LOL
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